(The benefits of ‘being the observer’ of your thoughts & emotions.)
- You will have serenity and peace of mind. Once you’re conditioned to thinking positive thoughts, you won’t abuse yourself emotionally by mulling over negative things that happened in the past or that you fear might happen in the future. You will look for the positive in every situation, including the past and future, and you will feel good about your life. Your self-esteem will be very high because you will be practicing positive self-talk and you will know how to handle difficult, negative situations in a positive, compassionate way. In other words, you can live your life ‘your-way’ and enjoy it because your thoughts and feelings about the past or future will be positive and loving. You can ‘live in the present moment’ when it happens and you can ‘live in the past or future’ when it happens. When you have nothing but emotional suffering to lose, and a happy, contented life-style to gain, it’s always worth trying.
- Once you condition your thoughts and feelings to be positive, you cannot help but notice when others have a negative conditioned mindset. If you notice someone has a negative mindset, you should not be open to a relationship with them because they will pull you down. You are like a recovering alcoholic and the negative person is like an active alcoholic who will get you drinking again. If you notice someone has a positive mindset, you should be open to a relationship because they will help you to maintain a positive mindset. After you have done this for a while, most of your relationships will be with people who have positive emotional mindsets. If you must deal with someone with a negative mindset, be compassionate. Treat them as you would treat any other emotionally sick person. Remember, ‘but for the grace of God, there go I’.
- When you are ready to have a long-term, intimate relationship, deliberately seek out a partner who is as positive, or more positive, than you are. When two people, each with a negative conditioned mindset, become a couple, they resolve most negative situations by responding in a negative way. They will argue and fight until one partner says, “That’s it! I want out of this relationship! All we do is argue and fight and it’s all your fault.” When two people, each with a positive conditioned mindset, become a couple, they resolve most negative situations by responding in a positive, compassionate way. They won’t be arguing and fighting. Then one day you will realize what a wonderful, loving relationship you are in and you will feel blessed because you are living a life of contentment.
- In the work place, employers are looking for people who can work with others, build relationships with team members and customers, and be self-directed. This positive behavior pattern comes from a positive conditioned mindset (high emotional intelligence). Emotionally intelligent managers know that a positive conditioned mindset enables the workers to enjoy their work and they want to do a good job. When that happens, productivity goes up and the business makes more money. Emotionally intelligent managers also know that a negative conditioned mindset is like a cancer in the work place. The negative conditioned attitude will spread to other workers who will behave in a negative way. When that happens, productivity goes down and the business makes less money. Then, when the business cycle takes a down turn, the manager will terminate the individuals with a negative mindset first, wanting to keep those workers that help make the most money for the business. So a positive mindset adds to your job security.
- Once you have conditioned your emotions to be positive, consider sharing with others how to condition their emotions through self-awareness and by continuously responding in a positive way to any negative situation. Tell them about this website so they can explore it on their own. As a parent, teach your children to respond to most negative situation with a positive mindset. Rather than getting angry, have the child ask himself, “How do I want to respond to this?” and help them select a positive, compassionate alternative. Not only will they be happy from within and have serenity, they will treat others in a positive, compassionate way. Think what your life would be like today, if your caregiver had proactively conditioned you to respond with a positive mindset.